A Dress Rehearsal...

I don't know if anyone really remembers "A Different World", but it was the character "Whitley" who was best known for a little crazy saying when she was all out of sorts, or trying to calm others into a state of peace... not to mention her comical body flailing of Relax, Relate, Release! lol Too funny, but it is often what I think of when I consider what needs to be done to release the old and embrace the new. I think as humans we have a hard time letting go, but especially women... old flames; seemingly secure, but dead-end jobs; keep-sakes of moments long gone; friendships which have waned. We search high and low for answers, with none truly to be found. I suppose that is just life sometimes... there aren't always answers to our life's greatest mysteries, only subtle clues. Scattered pieces of a puzzle that for some comes together in a lifetime and for others, they are forever disheveled.

The weight upon a heart when turning over and over circumstance to by chance be offered another view, another turn of events, can nearly snuff out its life. If we ponder deeply upon the 'coulda, woulda, shoulda' of life, we never open ourselves up to the opportunities to make new moments and take those risks which we may have shied away from the first round. They often say "life is not a dress rehearsal", but perhaps it really is just that... perhaps, it is a continuous play but with ever changing characters. Allowing opportunities to enter and enabling change and thus reinventing one's life. To explore all that we have ever dreamed by just letting go of what we thought once was impossible. Possibly life is a dress rehearsal in that we always have the opportunity to make it better, to improve our last performance, to tweak what we might not like in the present.

Once we empower ourselves to change the way we view our lives, stop limiting our possibilities by the extent of reality and expanding it by our dreams, possibly this is when we can truly let go of what has grown old and gray, worn and withered. Whether that is a job, a lover, a friendship, or anything that seems to keep us from tweaking our life to what we always thought it should or could be. It's not an over-night concept, it's not even within a year venture... it is a process of ratification and an outlook that we deserve all we can dream and nothing short of that.

Simply Relax (ing) our mind and beginning to dream again.... Relate (ing) to our world and how we visualize our part in it... Release (ing) what we thought we knew of our life, our future and embracing a world of opportunity. No matter where we 'exist' now in the present, we can transcend any reality we thought we knew by simply letting go of that predisposition and embracing the possibility of whatever we can dream. We have but one life, and only time upon this earth, how sad that we should squander it away by frivolously holding onto what makes us weak in spirit and will and never striving for more than we 'think' we deserve.

After all, it's only a dress rehearsal... we can always change at anytime what ends up in the final show.


"Where there is a will, there is a way. If there is a chance in a million that you can do something, anything, to keep what you want from ending, do it. Pry the door open or, if need be, wedge your foot in that door and keep it open." ~Pauline Kael